So this happened:

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And this happened:

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That young adult stage of my life has pretty much come to a close. I haven’t really been able to process it until recently. Earlier in the year I was drowning in anxiety about finding a job. When I got employed I was so nervous about what my colleagues were going to be like and whether they would like me. Now that I’ve settled into my role and a few days have passed since graduation, well I’m feeling quite awful.

Sure it’s definitely exciting entering a new phase in your life. But it’s incredibly saddening to end one. I suppose a lot of this is coming from grad day and seeing friends I hadn’t seen for a long time. It was so great talking to old friends and laughing about old memories. Just having everyone together in the same place was really awesome.

And then it was over. Ah………I think I need to ugly cry.

The crisis in Ukraine has once again brought the issue of nuclear non-proliferation and nuclear disarmament to the forefront. A little history lesson; Ukraine previously possessed nukes, but an agreement with the United States, United Kingdom and Russia, effectively caused them to hand it over to Russia. In return, Russia was to respect Ukraine’s territory. 

Detractors of non-proliferation organizations say ‘Look at the state of Ukraine now. Russia would never have invaded if they possessed nuclear power.’ You also get the argument that modern civilization has found itself in one of the most stable and peaceful eras in history since the invention of the atomic bomb.

How do you feel about that statement? Sure, there were no major interstate wars during the Cold War, but I don’t know how I feel about that era as being ‘stable’.

To play devil’s advocate: say you have a gun pointed at me and I have one pointed at you but no one shoots. Are we in a stable, peaceful environment?

If you've dating someone and you love each other, would you break up with him/her due to family reasons and is scared of what the future might bring?

Firstly, nice attempt at being anonymous, but I know exactly who this is.

Secondly, my opinion on this is all circumstantial and biased. What are your circumstances and what are hers/his. If you’re both students and living at home, personally, it’s almost likely that I’d end the relationship. This is all for monetary reasons and having a healthy psyche. Not ending it and living with that kind of hostility is a bit much.

Again, this is assuming that the reasons are that grave. Most parents don’t like their children’s partners. From what I’ve seen, a lot of the reasons are quite petty. Eventually family just get used to the other half, and accept that she/he is there to stay.

That being said, it’s all circumstantial. Every person is different. Some are more stubborn than others. Some are more understanding than others. Your parents are your parents. So respect your parents. They’re going to stay as your parents. If you’re living at home and aren’t financially independent, that’s unfortunately one of the factors to keep in mind.

I know this is easier said than done, but our parents want to help us. They however have their own view of how that is done. So you’ve got to talk to them. If your parents don’t approve of a relationship, try to talk to them about it. Try to find out the reason.

Ultimately, I think the answer depends on the reason, the personality of your family and the lengths you’re willing to go. If you’re willing to fight them are you prepared to cut ties with your family? That’s been the tragic consequence of some stories I’ve heard. But what do I know.

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